Posted by: antoniadb | November 5, 2009

Indian Beauty Parlour.

The humidity and my curly hair do not get along so well. I don’t think I’d call my hair curly so much as frizzy while here ;)

The result has been tying my hair back to keep it out of my face and as in control as possible. But the women of the Umjarha village did not approve. One of the older women went into her home and came out with a comb and a bottle of oil. I was afraid. She motioned for me to sit on the bench in front of her. Did I have a choice? I sat down and she rubbed the oil on my head and began combing my tangled locks. She yanked and pulled and then slicked back my hair into a new and improved look. Well, I don’t know if it was improved, it was…slick. I just sat there laughing, what else could I do?

Posted by: antoniadb | October 23, 2009

PaddleBoats & Playing Hooky From Work.

As I tried to explain earlier, there is no such thing as a typical day.

Like today, for example. I went to work and then attended the kick-off for the candle making training that NEICORD is sponsoring for Self Help Group members interested in learning a new skill for income generation. I expected to come back to the office after the training. But the 3 Musketeers had other plans ;)

First, we had lunch at the golf course. When I say “at” I should clarify, I mean “on”. The golf course is the popular picnice spot of Shillong. I have yet to see anyone golf on the greens. I’ve only seen picnics. But Shillong residents are very proud of the golf course.

After lunch I thought we’d be going back to the office. Wrong again. Anderson decided he wanted to treat me to the paddleboats of Ward’s Lake.

Did somebody say gongshow??

First of all, the boats look like they’ve been around since colonial times.

Secondly, Phiba was terrified. But at least she got in the boat, Balo refused and waited for us at the dock.

Thirdly, 1 Antonia equals aprox. 2 Indians, so it took awhile to get the boat properly balanced. In process Anderson was yelling away in Khasi and the only word I caught was “Titanic!!” He thought the boat was going to sink or flip! Let’s add one more “Antonia feels like the hulk” moment to the list eh?

But after we were balanced and seated, poor Anderson was the only one who was able to paddle. I offered to help but Phiba was so terrified that she wouldn’t let me move! So Anderson had to paddle us around the lake.

Oh, and then the fish! Anderson had bought food for the fish, which I caught him eating. His reply: “I don’t want to waste it on the bloody fish!” But he finally consented to feeding the fish/ducks.

I’m still laughing… :)

Posted by: antoniadb | October 22, 2009

Today’s Tangent…

A co-worker came back from the field on Monday. She’d been in the field for about a month, her return kept getting delayed because of hold ups in the rice shipments. She’s been overseeing a relief effort in a remote, rural area and yesterday the two of us had an interesting conversation on the conditions there. She asked me to please share what it’s like with the people I know in North America. I told her I would do my best to tell her stories. But how could I tell her that even if I told them most people wouldn’t care? Or it’s not that they wouldn’t care but caring without action, what’s the point? Not to blame them (myself included) but we’re so inundated with information about world crises that I think most people just throw their hands up and walk away or tune it out or choose to focus on their small circle of influence bc what happens “over there” isn’t their problem.

She shared how many of the villagers are finding rice crops to be too difficult to grow. Either bandhs will come and raid their crops or wild boars will destroy them. The people are hungry and so many are beginning to turn to growing poppy crops. Honestly, can you blame them? If my family was hungry and I could do something about it, I think I would do almost anything…

So, what response are we to have? Honestly, I don’t know. This is where relief & development work gets sticky. It’s never just one issue or problem. It’s an entire swirl of problems with the poor caught in the middle. The violence & unrest caused by militant groups. The harsh environment. The demand for opium. The immediacy of hunger. The challenges of a remote location. Where does one begin?

My co-worker leaves today to return to the field. I admire her dedication. I’m nervous about 2 weeks in a village, less remote than hers, and she’s returning after being gone for an entire month. More than that, she’s doing something that most of us never do. She’s doing something.

People wonder why I’m so passionate about world geography, history, and current events, about knowing where places are and what has happened and is happening.  One of my proudest moments at seminary was when my friend Alex told me he was reading A People’s History of the United States, after I’d harassed him about his getting through high school without taking a single history class!!! Maybe it has something to do with my mom’s love of maps or my dad’s passion for history (“you’ve never heard of ‘operation market garden??!’what are they teaching you in school antonia??”)  or with having lived in southern California for 2 years and having met many (not all! but many) people who know little about their neighbour to the north ;) But I also think it’s because if you don’t know, it’s easy to feel let off the hook. It’s hard to care about some people living in some remote village somewhere. It’s hard to understand when you don’t know the story of a people. But, having visited my share of remote places, it’s hard to NOT care once you know. Once you’ve seen. Once you’ve met people. Once you can place it on a map.

As I said earlier, I plead guilty too.

But now I’m here. So what do I do?

What do I tell my co-worker? What do I tell the participants in the urban project who are already asking about me and when I’ll come back? When I return to North America how can I do justice to the things that I have seen and experienced here? 3 months is nothing. It’s just enough to snag your heart and then rip it out when you have to say goodbye.  

I don’t really have any answers. This is just my soapbox for the day ;)

Thoughts? Comments?

 

PS – For you keeners who want to know…

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Operation_Market_Garden

Posted by: antoniadb | October 20, 2009

At my Desk.

Just to give you a visual of me work in the office…
working hard ;)
working hard ;)

And here is Balo, Phiba and I enjoying our roadside momos!

yummy!

yummy!

Posted by: antoniadb | October 20, 2009

A Little Nouwen to Munch On…

I just finished LifeSigns by Henri Nouwen.

Really, you should just read the book because it’s wonderful and Nouwen’s writing is delicious. Nouwen builds the book upon 3 words: intimacy, fecundity & ecstasy. He does a brilliant job of articulating each one but I wanted to share some of his thoughts on ecstasy. I don’t know about you but when I hear the word ecstasy I think of either mind-altering substances or those spiritual “crazies”, like the whirling dervishes or mystics. But here’s how Nouwen breaks it down:

“Ecstasy’ comes from the Grk ‘ekstasis,’ which in turn is derived from ‘ek,’ meaning out, and ‘stasis,’ a state of standstill. To be ecstatic literally means to be outside of a static place. Thus, those who live ecstatic lives are always moving away from rigidly fixed situations and exploring new, unmapped dimensions of reality. Here we see the essence of joy. Joy is always new….Joy is always connected with movement, renewal, rebirth, change – in short, with life. Joy is essentially ecstatic since it moves out of the place of death, which is rigid and fixed, and into the place of life, which is new and surprising.”

Nouwen goes on to describe how fear can keep us in 1 of 2 extremes, either a life characterized by routine / rigidity or one defined by rootlessness. Both are coping mechanisms in a life driven by fear.

But then he goes on to describe the ecstatic life, it is a life characterized by joy (newness) & celebration.

“Celebration is not just a way to make people feel good for a while; it is the way in which faith in the God of life is lived out, through both laughter and tears…It is the unceasing affirmation that underneath all the ups and downs of life there flows a solid current of joy.”

I love his descriptions of joy & celebration. It’s not a denial of pain & sorrow, rather it’s an affirmation of their reality without succumbing to them.  It allows me to say that I have hope and joy and peace without dismissing the painful realities of our human existence. It’s been my experience that many choose one or the other. Either they live in an isolated world of “joy” in which pain, doubt and fear is ignored or hidden away. Or there are those who are so concerned with the pain, doubts and fears of others that they lose their joy in the process and live in a state of cynicism. Personally, I’ve never fit into either camp, being the cynical one in camp “happy-go-lucky” and the naïve idealist in camp “realist.” It was freeing to read Nouwen’s description of this middle way.

Oh Nouwen, such good food for the soul :)

Posted by: antoniadb | October 19, 2009

Some Photos!

Posted by: antoniadb | October 19, 2009

All In A Day’s Work.

My turn for office devos today. Ended with a mini interview by the director in front of everyone about my thoughts on xtianity in India vs xtianity in N.A. Eeehhh, no pressure ;)

2 staffers returned from a trip = treats for all!

Phone rings. Hello? Mom??!! I talked to my parents today, happy day :)

Left the office to attend a training seminar for the SHGs. In the back of my mind I wandered what they could possibly ask the whitey to do today…sing? no. pray? no. speak? no. Lead the trainees in a game?? yes! Trying to think of a translatable cross-culturally friendly game was fun but I think we all had fun! I was complimented on my Khasi (all I had to do was count to 3).

After the training we stayed behind for a group meeting. The members were strugging bc they’ve started a paper bag making & selling income generation project but the demand for their product is so high and members weren’t spending equal amounts of time in the production of the bags. Some things are universal eh? During the meeting they created a schedule to divide up the work fairly.

After a looong meeting, the fun began ;)

Five words: squatty potty in the dark. It was in this corner behind a building and we had to trek over these crazy steps to get there. Then I had to pee with the door wide open in front of my co-workers bc it was so dark! You feel closer to someone after you’ve heard each another “pass water”…

Then, Balo & Phiba had stolen Anderson’s keys so while he went to make the trek to the toilet we ran for the car! We jumped in, locked the doors and waited. It was dark and the windows were fogged up so when Anderson came back looking for us, he couldn’t see us waiting inside. We were laughing so hard inside the car as he was yelling up and down the street for us! Finally we honked the horn to let him in on the secret ;)

Then it was “momo” time. “Momo” = dumplings. It’s become a ritual on meeting nights to stop for momos either before or after work. It’s this street vendor that I probably shouldn’t be eating from but they taste sooo good…We sit on these rickety benches on the side of the road and enjoy the amazingness.

While eating our momos, I asked about the upcoming village trip. Oh boy…snakes & wild elephants came up. Spotty electricity. Bringing our own food. It’s going to be remote. When I asked about the heat, Balo answered: “bearable”. Did somebody say gongshow??

All in a day’s work…

Posted by: antoniadb | October 17, 2009

Cherrapunjee.

World’s 4th Highest Falls: Nohkalikai

Breathtaking.

Take the stairs down for a better look.

Stairs end.

We spot a trail.

All in?

All in.

Hiking down a jungle-like cliff.

Why on earth did I wear flipflops today??

Hiking, sliding, shuffling down over rocks, roots, and branches.

Yes, I just fell on my behind.

“Slowly, slowly” words of caution from MorningStar (driver).

Eventually…we have to turn back.

Barefoot for the climb up.

It’s literally climbing at points.

Sweaty mess.

Reach the stairs.

Pause to catch our breath.

Worth it?

Worth it.

Posted by: antoniadb | October 17, 2009

The Past Week.

I wish you all could come to Shillong and share some of the moments that I’ve had this past week. From the gongshow to the priceless to the humbling.

Gongshow: trying to find my friend Barry (Fullerite) without a mobile

Priceless: a row of girls from the Sunday School pulling me down one by one and kissing me on both the left & right cheek. so sweet!

Humbling: sitting with a group of 11 “poor” women who are making a difference in their locality. Before joining the Self Help Group (SHG) the majority were illiterate and living “hand to mouth” as one woman described it. After coming together in a SHG they have started a children feeding program, monthly neighbourhood cleaning drives and now they are making and selling paper bags (for income and to reduce the use of plastic bags which clog the drainage pipes and cause flooding in one part of their community). These women are INCREDIBLE. I was so humbled to sit with them in a tiny room as they held their weekly meeting. Their smiles were beautiful. Their passion was inspiring. Seriously, I wish I could’ve transported each and everyone of you into that room.

Sitting in that crowded room full of Khasi women I felt the most at home that I have felt since being here. This was what has been missing. That little piece of my heart that remains dormant when I’m in my comfortable world at home, that piece came alive again in that room. Maybe it’s because those poor women are not as “poor” as we might think.

Maybe it’s because they have something to offer, something that we are not capable of bringing to the table.

Posted by: antoniadb | October 16, 2009

I Have a Confession to Make (Part 2).

I tried the betel nut.

I know Kohima had advised me not to but I just had to try…

How to describe it…

The consistency is like you’re chewing on wood and then there’s the leaf. But that stuff is powerful! My coworkers had warned me it could make me “dizzy.” But since it’s been offered to me at every SHG mtg I’ve been to and I’ve been told it’s a Khasi way to honour their guests I thought I should at least try it once…

Besides the lack of taste and the texture it definitely has a “kick” to it. My tongue went numb & tingly pretty much instantly. Other than that I didn’t feel anything else, but my curiosity led me to the ever reliable source of wikipedia ;) Here’s what it says:

“Areca (betel) nuts are chewed with betel leaf for their effects as a mild stimulant, causing a mild hot sensation in the body and slightly heightened alertness, although the effects vary from person to person. The effect of chewing betel and the nut is relatively mild and could be compared to drinking a cup of coffee.”

Interesting.

All that to say I don’t think I need to indulge again but I bet someone could make some $$ marketing that stuff!

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